Roni, you write at length about how I misunderstood what you were saying. I don't think you realize how patronizing and insufferable you come across, especially as you are not even an Israeli, but a Zionist American Jew and not ashamed of it. You say, "Well, clearly I started by saying you have a right to your feelings," as if that makes it OK for you to go on and advise me about how I ought to feel--for my own good, for peace, etc.

You seem to be confused about the concept of decolonization, so let me refer you to an article written by Omar Barghouti on ethical decolonization. In the article, Barghouti argues that ethical decolonization anchored in international law and universal human rights is a profound process of transformation that requires, above everything else, a sophisticated, principled and popular Palestinian resistance movement with a clear vision for justice and a democratic, inclusive society, as well as an international movement supporting Palestinian rights and struggling to end all forms of Zionist apartheid, racism and colonial rule. If such a vision seems to you undesirable to achieve, well, that's your problem.

Re-imagining Palestine - https://znetwork.org/znetarticle/re-imagining-palestine-by-omar-barghouti/.

You can also watch Omar talk about this concept in 2013 here: Omar Barghouti on “ethical decolonization”

https://electronicintifada.net/blogs/benjamin-doherty/watch-omar-barghouti-ethical-decolonization-and-moving-beyond-zionist-racism.

Let me add also that such a vision cannot be achieved without armed resistance. The BDS movement that Barghouti and others in Palestinian civil society put into motion has been stalled for almost two decades, but has now leapt into life as a result of armed resistance. It's the only language Israel understands.